Have you woken up one morning and wondered who you are or what you are even doing? So many people wonder at what they are meant to do. What awaits them at the end of the rainbow. Some have defined themselves through family and friends. Others through their skills and hobbies. However in the end, who are we really? Sure you can define yourself through those vices but are you going to be satisfied with that?
It limits us to a certain extent. We can live everyday without knowing anything. This world has geared itself to do just that. There are so many office jobs. Monotonous daily life. Is that a life? What do you see everyday of your lives? Just those gray walls with fingers tapping away on keyboards? Always answering to someone else in another's power. Is that a life? Sure it is a life but is it yours or someone else's life?
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Lies and Secrets
Inevitably with the topic of relationships come the topic of lies and secrets. People have often wondered why they are lied to or being kept ignorant of certain knowledge. For those in relationships don't ever keep a secret or a lie especially when it concerns a guy or girl. Don't ever think that it is to protect your relationship because you are just fooling yourselves. Once it is found out, you would be surprised how fast and how far your relationship will fall and snap. After you lie once, you will keep building up and just putting yourselves in a higher and precarious position in which to fall.
People don't like to get lied to, so they shouldn't do it in the first place. That would be hypocrisy.
I don't speak of this hypothetically but through personal experience. For if there was nothing happening then why the need to lie? Learn to trust them and tell them. You would be surprised that you may have imagined a worse reaction. It is not like you can build a relationship of ignorance because once that bubble is popped all the pressure would be released and like a bomb it would severely damage those involved. Sure, you may forgive them over and over but you must yourself this..if they loved you and trusted you, would there be a need for the lies and secrets? Make sure you talk to them because you can't live a life being lied to...after all you would then live in doubt of whether they loved you or not.
People don't like to get lied to, so they shouldn't do it in the first place. That would be hypocrisy.
I don't speak of this hypothetically but through personal experience. For if there was nothing happening then why the need to lie? Learn to trust them and tell them. You would be surprised that you may have imagined a worse reaction. It is not like you can build a relationship of ignorance because once that bubble is popped all the pressure would be released and like a bomb it would severely damage those involved. Sure, you may forgive them over and over but you must yourself this..if they loved you and trusted you, would there be a need for the lies and secrets? Make sure you talk to them because you can't live a life being lied to...after all you would then live in doubt of whether they loved you or not.
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Relationships
No big surprise...Look around you and you can find it present...anywhere you look. First things first..What is a relationship?..well if we were to look in a dictionary it says .."an emotional or other connection between people" and " a connection, association, or involvement.". That is a pretty accurate definition for it. If we were put a relationship into out personal lives it would mostly consist of an emotional connection may it be with family, friends and lovers.
From past experiences, I have found that a lot of people take relationships lightly, mostly in terms of their boy/girlfriends. They would then go in and out of relationships without really considering why that got into one in the first place. Getting into a relationship should be taken more seriously not just "trying out". This method cheapens relationships and plants ideas that relationships are not serious and should be taken for granted. This is untrue because if it is taken for granted, then is it non-existent then? For then it would not be an emotional connection but rather it would be connection and that would be the end. This would then lead to a degenerating society in terms of emotions and words like "I Love You" would be nothing more than words spoken more out of duty rather than how someone feels. Don't decide to start up a relationship just for the kick, for that is not only selfish but also inconsiderate. When a relationship is as it should be, you would be surprised at how much it means to you and how you feel at that point and from that point. It can change your life and fulfill you. Sure, things might not always be on the high point and you may have some rough paths ahead but you will find you would want to keep it, no matter what happens.
Relationship with friends are also rewarding in their own respect. Without friends life would be dull and lonely. From some sources, it is said that the more friends you have, the longer you will live. However it may be slightly inaccurate, as it is more likely the more true friends you have rather than more friends. Despite this inaccuracy, I do agree with this as having more friends does help keep you positive most of the time. They would share your burden when you need them to, listen to you, distract you and be there for you, and in turn you would do the same for them. If we were unable to do this we would be irritated at the pent up emotions we bottle up inside and this also gives us a chance to know that we are not the only ones going though problems. We can also share in their joys and because of this will we not be more happy?
Last but not least, is family relationships. Well first and foremost I have to say..if we did not have family relationships we would not be here right now will we? At the same time though, people can have one of the two relationships stated above. A relationship with family is also mutual such as with friends but at the same time they are different. There are some things you can share with just your family and some things you can only share between friends.
Although they are all different, they all play an important role in our lives. With family and friends the distinction can be blurred as some may consider friends to be family and treat the as such and vice versa. So do not take relationships lightly as they have a large role and impact on our lives and without them words like "I Love You" will have no meaning and we would truly be in a dead and bleak world.
From past experiences, I have found that a lot of people take relationships lightly, mostly in terms of their boy/girlfriends. They would then go in and out of relationships without really considering why that got into one in the first place. Getting into a relationship should be taken more seriously not just "trying out". This method cheapens relationships and plants ideas that relationships are not serious and should be taken for granted. This is untrue because if it is taken for granted, then is it non-existent then? For then it would not be an emotional connection but rather it would be connection and that would be the end. This would then lead to a degenerating society in terms of emotions and words like "I Love You" would be nothing more than words spoken more out of duty rather than how someone feels. Don't decide to start up a relationship just for the kick, for that is not only selfish but also inconsiderate. When a relationship is as it should be, you would be surprised at how much it means to you and how you feel at that point and from that point. It can change your life and fulfill you. Sure, things might not always be on the high point and you may have some rough paths ahead but you will find you would want to keep it, no matter what happens.
Relationship with friends are also rewarding in their own respect. Without friends life would be dull and lonely. From some sources, it is said that the more friends you have, the longer you will live. However it may be slightly inaccurate, as it is more likely the more true friends you have rather than more friends. Despite this inaccuracy, I do agree with this as having more friends does help keep you positive most of the time. They would share your burden when you need them to, listen to you, distract you and be there for you, and in turn you would do the same for them. If we were unable to do this we would be irritated at the pent up emotions we bottle up inside and this also gives us a chance to know that we are not the only ones going though problems. We can also share in their joys and because of this will we not be more happy?
Last but not least, is family relationships. Well first and foremost I have to say..if we did not have family relationships we would not be here right now will we? At the same time though, people can have one of the two relationships stated above. A relationship with family is also mutual such as with friends but at the same time they are different. There are some things you can share with just your family and some things you can only share between friends.
Although they are all different, they all play an important role in our lives. With family and friends the distinction can be blurred as some may consider friends to be family and treat the as such and vice versa. So do not take relationships lightly as they have a large role and impact on our lives and without them words like "I Love You" will have no meaning and we would truly be in a dead and bleak world.
Monday, April 20, 2009
Time
Time has always been pictured to be like sand...something we can try to grasp but at the same time it slips through out fingers. We always say we will find time for him/her later and that it is no big deal. Sure it may be no big deal until the worst happens. It is never expected despite there always being a chance of happening and despite our wish to have the time we have wasted back, it will never be taken back no matter how much we wish it to be so. So then what are we to do? Don't regret because time does not stop for you. I once read somewhere "Live life to the fullest, age to the fullest but most of all try and die with a smile". How true it is that we must learn to make the most of the time you have with those you love. Similar to my past post of 'Life' and 'Family', make memories with those around you and cherish them deeply because they will always be with you. The truth is there has been so much grief around lately that people don't live their life but stop and stagnate upon a point in their life but when they snap out of it they do not realise that everyone else whom they have cherished have disappeared and they have no memories because of their disconnection. I may not be perfect to say I have always avoided this but I know how it feels. So don't live a life which you will regret later, do your utmost to make the memories which keeps your friends, families, boy/girlfriend special to you.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Family
It's been quite some time since I last blogged here. Been bogged down with assignments and such Someone should leave a comment sometime on their thoughts.
Family. What does it mean to people? That they are blood related and thus have an unchangeable tie to you? or does it mean the sense of belonging that they offer? For adopted children, it is the sense of belonging which is important to them but even then there is a wish to know their biological mother and father. However, on another hand there is a view that family is people you have a deep and special relationship with. People you can trust and rely on. No matter what the circumstance is. Despite all these perspectives, I realised one thing. Family is..well..F.A.M.I.L.Y...which stands for...Forever and more, I love you.
Family. What does it mean to people? That they are blood related and thus have an unchangeable tie to you? or does it mean the sense of belonging that they offer? For adopted children, it is the sense of belonging which is important to them but even then there is a wish to know their biological mother and father. However, on another hand there is a view that family is people you have a deep and special relationship with. People you can trust and rely on. No matter what the circumstance is. Despite all these perspectives, I realised one thing. Family is..well..F.A.M.I.L.Y...which stands for...Forever and more, I love you.
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Life.
Life. Such a small word yet meaning so much to everyone. We have always claimed to live a life but what does it really mean? There have been so many different ways of living a life but it is still summed up into one word...Life. So what does it mean to live a life?
Well, personally it means to be with family and friends and to treasure the times you have together. For others it may be satisfaction found in doing work, hobbies and religion. Sadly for many people, they live but do not have a life. For others they are out there looking for where they belong but can't seem to find it. For those of you who have, consider yourselves lucky, enjoy and treasure what you have well. Don't take it for granted for you never know when it would be gone. So live a life free from regret because while you drown yourself in self-pity, the world passes around you and you will miss out on life. One thought that I have always kept with me is, 'Money does not matter...What matters are the moments created together'. However, don't get me wrong, money is important in order for our to live our lives but it should not take precedent that you do not enjoy life. For what is the point of having money only to find that you can no longer use it? For as George Carlin said "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breaths away."
Well, personally it means to be with family and friends and to treasure the times you have together. For others it may be satisfaction found in doing work, hobbies and religion. Sadly for many people, they live but do not have a life. For others they are out there looking for where they belong but can't seem to find it. For those of you who have, consider yourselves lucky, enjoy and treasure what you have well. Don't take it for granted for you never know when it would be gone. So live a life free from regret because while you drown yourself in self-pity, the world passes around you and you will miss out on life. One thought that I have always kept with me is, 'Money does not matter...What matters are the moments created together'. However, don't get me wrong, money is important in order for our to live our lives but it should not take precedent that you do not enjoy life. For what is the point of having money only to find that you can no longer use it? For as George Carlin said "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breaths away."
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